Joann Demerit

Joann · 0:00: Yes, I had, well, kind of, I had sex with my husband, but, this was on Monday, but it was, he didn't even want to, which is interesting, so I want to ask you why, but he said, well, gosh, could we do it tomorrow? And I'm like, hmm, no, I really, yeah. He's like, well, you know, I have to get, you know, back to work or this or that, and can we do it, you know, tomorrow? And I'm like, no, I'm feeling, I am feeling like, I said dominatrix. I said, I just, I really, I just, I think I need to do this.

Joann · 0:56: And I was going back and forth on it, and I was like, oh, my God, and I was thinking, well, if I go downstairs and, you know, invite him up, that's not going to happen. And now, all of a sudden, he showed up in the bathroom, in our bedroom, and I was like, okay, well, maybe this is fine, because I was feeling like I needed to prove to myself that I am sexy, I am beautiful, I, you know, I can, I'm, can be powerful. And I put on my, like, whopper sexy Victoria's Secret bra that I bought that he, I showed to him at one point, and he said, oh, nice bra, and then two months later asked me, you know, because he saw me in it, and he goes, oh, is that a new bra? And I said, no, you don't remember this? I mean, it's like wild colors.

Joann · 1:59: My girlfriends have seen it. I mean, you know, I've, like, showed them. Would some man forget that they've seen a woman in this bra? I mean, and they're like, holy crap, no.

Joann · 2:10: I mean, it's, it's fun. I've never had such a fun-looking bra. Anyway, so I felt like superwoman, and so when I said, no, I'm kind of feeling a little, like, I need to be the dominatrix, which is, I've never, never, never, never, never happened.

Joann · 2:35: And he said, oh, okay, and he was physically getting aroused from that, and he's like, okay, well, let's, you know, go, and, but what's interesting is that he could not get erect the whole scene, and I was, like, wild woman, and it just, it felt good, and I just, I felt like, I was looking at his face, and it was like, he couldn't believe it, and I think I was, you know, part of me was thinking, like, yeah, you need a, you know, someone else. You need some other woman to be wild and crazy, you know, for you. I mean, you know, your wife can be this way, too, but I felt, I felt beautiful.

Joann · 3:43: I felt sexy, and he could not get an erection, so there was no penetration, because, you know, that's what happened for him, so it was all about me, and at the end of it, when I finally, you know, he finally gave me an orgasm, which was, you know, it took a while, but, you know, he got there, and it was nice, he, you know, I said, well, gosh, you know, I'm sorry that you can't, you know, feel any pleasure or whatever. I said, were you, you know, was it arousing? He's like, holy shit, you know, I just, this is, like, wow, and he couldn't believe it, and he said it was very arousing, but he's like, yeah, I don't know why I can't, and, you know, my thought, so you tell me differently, and maybe I did this to kind of, you know, prove what was going on, but it's either the porn thing, and that he can't, you know, he's watching too much porn, and maybe he just had already watched porn earlier that day or something, I don't know when he's doing it. He already ejaculated that day, and that's why he couldn't do it again.

Joann · 5:28: He told me that, you know, he can do it on his own, and that was one of the reasons I told him, you know, that, well, you can't seem to get aroused with me, is it, you know, one would think that either there's something wrong, and, gee, why wouldn't you go to the doctor, I mean, most men would think this is an issue, or is it just because, you know, you're doing other things, and you can't get aroused because you've already been doing things. I mean, what do you see?

Liana: I mean, honestly, Joanne, I don't, this may be one of the only times in 48 years that I don't even know what to say, like, I am sad, I'm horribly sad for you, I am, I feel like this is a tragedy of gargantuan proportions, I feel embarrassed as a woman, just for a woman to have to go out of her way like that to prove to this guy that you're sexy, that you're worthy, that he doesn't, quote, need other women, which has nothing to do with your sexiness or your worth as a woman, it's like catering to this narcissist, I literally, I'm not exaggerating, and I don't think any of you have ever heard me say this, except for maybe Sanjit, literally feel like I need to vomit, it's that disgusting to me, because I am just horrified for you, and that you went through all of that, and even went through that experience where he didn't have an erection, you didn't actually have that happen, and he's sitting there making excuses, and you're having to encounter this energy, and just, like, beg, like, begging for him to love you, to see you, to want you, and on top of that, the story about the bra, that he didn't remember the bra, it's like, these are all massive, huge, glaring, red signs, and it's not about you being empowered, you being empowered is leaving him, you being empowered is not dressing up in lingerie and begging him to have sex with you, and then he doesn't even get an erection, that's not, that's not empowerment at all, that's the opposite of empowerment.